Are you still single and do you sometimes wonder if you are normal? Believe me, there’s nothing wrong with you. We live in a society where we are pressured to be in a relationship. You may feel other people will find you weird and pitiable if you aren’t in a solid relationship. But this idea has bad consequences for us all, forcing people into choices they shouldn’t necessarily have to make. The reality is that the solid relationships you observe on social media, or with your friends and family etc. aren’t as perfect as society may think.
I myself am single for a long time, because after experiencing romantic love I found out these romantic ideals don’t exist. This made me lose my interest in dating someone and committing into a relationship. And the truth is, these relationships only made me feel worse about myself. Of course I experienced other romantic encounters, but my perception about romantic love hasn’t changed. I am not suggesting romantic love is wrong, but romantic love is really hard. It is easy to fall in love with someone, but true love is not something that you can find around the corner. I did found true love in my friendships, because everything that was missing in my romantic encounters I found in my friends. My friends accept me for 100%, they accept all my flaws and wouldn’t judge me for who I truly am. My friends are reliable and will never end the relationship because they don’t feel like seeing me anymore. I feel like romantic love is really unstable, because there is no solid foundation to make the relationship last forever.
Of course everyone has different experiences with romantic love, bad and good. And I am not saying you shouldn’t be in a relationship, nor I am saying I will never want to be in a relationship. But the point is that we must know we are truly free to make our own choices in life, no matter the pressure we may feel from society. I experienced this pressure myself, but I let this go and I feel so much happier now. Because I finally accept what I truly care for and who I am inside. Are you accepting yourself? Are you single now and aren’t you sure if you are really happy with this? Watch this video from The School of Life and hear out the reasons why it’s good to remain single. And make your own decision what you truly want in your love life!
Written by Sadja Faili
Daisy is the founder of Iloveyou500; a thinker and interested in personal development, social change, and human potential. Crazy about music, songwriting, religion & spirituality, (K)pop culture and music production. She works as a pastoral counselor in a Dutch nursing home and likes making new friends so feel free to get social with her.