Do you believe in true love?

Love is, like water and air, one of the most basic human needs. And just as each person has his or her unique needs, the meaning of love depends on the meaning you – yes you – give to it. Are you able to recognize love, acknowledge it and go for it? Do you dare to believe? In true love and finding your soul mate?

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I am convinced that all the people I meet hold lessons for me – and themselves – to learn. Lessons to love. Whether it is about self-love or to love one another. Are these always nice lessons? No. Like everything in life, love also entails balance. There will be no light to experience without the dark.

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Many love relationships do not last forever. But are these relationships worth any less? If you can give a positive answer to this question, then you know that unconditional love includes the unconditional acceptance of yourself, others and that ‘time’ has nothing to do with it.

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Yes! I know what you want to say: in a relationship it’s all about the balance between giving and taking! I don’t agree with this conviction. Because in many relationships, giving and taking is nothing more than a concession for an ‘ok’ relationship. A relationship where there is love but also a lack of vulnerability.

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Vulnerability is essential. It allows you to stay true to your heart. To make choices that are pure. To be able to choose someone who complements your vulnerability with his of her own. That is what matters in love; to be able to accept and be ‘whole’… on your own and together.

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But how do you find this ‘other’ person? Your soul mate? Unfortunately I cannot give you the answer to that question. But what I can tell you, is that when I met my soul mate, we both looked into each other’s eyes and knew: You! You belong to me and I belong to you. The intensity of that moment was so overwhelming, I cannot describe it.

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At first I did not dare to give in to my feelings. But the more space I gave myself and the ‘soul connection’ between the two of us, the more vulnerable and stronger I felt. I knew this relationship between us would be so much more than just ‘ok’.

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So now I ask you: is your relationship ‘ok’ or can you look your partner in the eyes, look into his or her soul, and feel almost literally: you’re a part of me and I am a part of you? Do you embrace the love between your souls? Do you feel the connection? Because then you know you’ve found your soul mate.

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Read more about Liselore on her website: LizLohren.nl

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Liselore is a freelance writer and cultural anthropologist who loves to dream, read and - of course - WRITE! She knows how to translate creative thoughts and ideas into written words and appreciates the value of a spiritual mind. Check out her blog: www.lizlohren.nl (in Dutch).